We talked occasionally about weaning her from it, but there was no need at that time. We figured we'd just wait it out.
I've seen kids dependent on their pacifiers well into childhood. I've seen four year olds talk perfectly well with the nipple inbetween their teeth. I've seen toddlers so attached on their bink that their teeth began forming around its shape.
I didn't want either of these things happening. So several weeks ago, my husband and I decided to cut back. She didn't need it every time she cried - she needed a distraction to get her mind off it. She didn't need it when we'd go for little walks down the street - she talked so much more when we'd pop it out of her mouth.
I was against weaning her completely because being around the new baby in October (I'm sure) will cause a little stress in her little kingdom. I wanted her to be able to be comforted if she needed.
Then I realized...October was still five months away. Hmm...
Well, about two weeks ago, Little Olive was so congested one night from a cold that she couldn't breathe out of her nose. Just as she was starting to quiet down, she would remove her bink and start to cry. My husband (who was putting her down to bed that night) saw that she wasn't going to fall asleep if she couldn't breathe. He took away her bink and decided right then she was going to wean.
Little Olive didn't take it well at all. The poor thing screamed for a couple hours while he calmly sat by her bed until she fell asleep. I was surprised, impressed, and proud that he stuck it out. Of course it was really hard hearing L.O. cry like that, but I knew she had her daddy right there, and he wasn't going to just leave the room. That night after falling asleep, she didn't wake up till the morning.
The following day for a nap, it was my turn. She cried for about 5 minutes, then fell asleep.
That afternoon, when we went in the car for some errands, she asked for it. I said, "No no, honey. It went bye-bye." She started to cry until I turned on the radio. She was fine after that.
Since then, she hasn't asked for it once!
She stumbled upon one in my purse a week later. She was so excited and happy, she just held it preciously in her little hands as if she found a chunk of gold.
I've been so impressed with her weaning from the bink. She falls asleep like a little doll, with her hands folded across her belly. She's happy in the car without it. She snuggles with her blanket and talks so much.
This is not to say she's completely advanced and over it. She definitely bulldozed her little cousin yesterday at the sight of one. Before I even knew what was happening, she had charged, grabbed it/pushed the baby down, popped it in her mouth, and ran away!
I was like, "What!??! I don't even know what to say while putting you in time-out! Don't...do...everything you just did."
My sister-in-law and I were cracking up despite ourselves.
So we know Little Olive still has a ways to go until she doesn't want one anymore. And if the new baby uses one, we might have a struggle. We'll deal with that when the time comes. I'm not worried about it at all. As my husband says, "The new kid will be lucky if they ever know what a pacifier is."
I just smile and think, Been there, done that.
But you never know, right?